Thursday, June 28
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Wednesday, June 27
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Friday, June 22
My daughter Nicole gave this "memo" (given by her teacher) during her early Montessori days...
1. Don't spoil me.
I know quite well that I ought not to have all I ask for.
2. Don't be afraid to be firm with me.
I prefer it, it makes me feel secure.
3. Don't let me form bad habits.
I have to rely on you to detect them at the early stages.
4. Don't make me feel smaller than I am.
It only makes me feel stupidly "big".
5. Don't correct me in front of people, if you can help it.
It will take much more notice, if you talk more quietly with me in private.
6. Don't make me feel that my mistakes are sins.
It upsets my sense of values.
7. Don't protect me from my consequences.
I need to learn the painful way sometimes.
8. Don't be too upset if I say "I hate you".
It isn't you I hate but your power to thwart me.
9. Don't take too much notice of my small ailments.
Sometimes they get me the attention I need.
10. Don't nag.
If you do, I shall protect myself by appearing deaf.
11. Don't forget that I cannot explain myself as well as I should like.
This is why I'm not always very accurate.
12. Don't tax my honesty too much.
I am easily frightened into telling lies.
13. Don't make rash promises.
Remember that I feel badly let down when promises are broken.
14. Don't be inconsistent.
That completely confuses me and makes me lose faith in you.
15. Don't take my fear as silly.
They are terribly real and you can do much to reassure me if you try to understand.
16. Don't put me off when I ask questions.
If you do, you will find that I stop asking and seek information elsewhere.
17. Don't ever suggest that you are perfect or infallible.
It gives me too great a shock when i discover you are neither.
18. Don't ever think it's beneath your dignity to apologize to me.
An honest apology makes me feel surprisingly warm towards you.
19. Don't forget how quickly I am growing up.
It must be very difficult to keep pace with me, but please do try.
20. Don't forget I am experimenting.
I couldn't get on without it so please put up with me.
21. Don't forget that I can't thrive without lots of understanding love, but I don't need to tell you, do I?
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Thursday, June 21
Take this quiz by Laura Wilkinson (as posted in the July issue of Kerygma).
Does your spouse or significant other:
1. Hit, punch, slap, shove or bite you?
2. Threaten to hurt you or your children?
3. Threaten to hurt friends or family members?
4. Have sudden outbursts of anger or rage?
5. Behave in an overprotective manner?
6. Become jealous without reason?
7. Prevent you from seeing family or friends?
8. Prevent you from going where you want, when you want?
9. Prevent you from working or attending school?
10. Destroy personal property or sentimental items?
11. Deny you access to family assets, such as bank accounts, credit cards or even the car?
12. Control all finances and force you to account for what you spend?
13. Force you to have sex against your will?
14. Force you to engage in sexual acts you do not enjoy?
15. Insult you or call you derogatory names?
16. Use intimidation or manipulation to control you or your children?
17. Humiliate you infront of your children?
18. Turn minor incidents into major arguments?
19. Abuse or threaten to abuse pets?
20. Withhold affection from you?
If you answered yes to even one of those questions, you are being abused, according to Ms. Wilkinson.
Posted by Wenchie at 12:58 PM
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Tuesday, June 19
This post is for my friends who have babies and toddlers who all refuse/ wont go to sleep even when the mommies are all ready to go to bed...
As any new parent will tell you, sleep deprivation comes with the territory. But when it lasts for weeks and even months, parents can turn to pros for some help. The newest generation of baby sleep experts are getting fast results. But you don’t need to hire an expert. Sleepy Planet co-founders Jill Spivack and Jennifer Waldburger have written a new book, “The Sleepeasy Solution: The Exhausted Parents’ Guide to Getting Your Child to Sleep.” Here’s an excerpt:
There are seven main “sleep stealers,” or reasons your child isn’t sleeping well; she may be affected by one of them, by a combination of several, or — if you’ve hit the jackpot — by all seven. Here are three of the most common.
Dimming the lights
Playing soft music
Diaper change and putting on pj’s
Nursing, a bottle, or a cup of milk
A book or song (or several of each)
Playing quietly on the floor (no toys that beep or blink)
With an older child, talking about your day together
You get the idea. Have fun and be creative; just remember to keep it low-key.
A sleep association is anything your child associates with falling asleep — such as arms holding her; rocking or bouncing; sucking on a pacifier, breast, bottle, or sippy cup; or having a parent lying nearby. Periodically throughout the night, your child drifts up into lighter sleep phases to check out her environment. During these checks, called “partial arousals,” she’s not fully conscious — and as long as nothing has changed significantly since she fell asleep in the first place, she simply returns to deeper sleep. But for many children, if something is different, this raises a red flag. Your child’s brain signals “crisis,” and she cries, calls to you, or comes to your bedside for help. What she needs is for you to re-create the same conditions that were present when she fell asleep in the first place, so she can fall back asleep now. Which you very diligently do!
Typical sleep associations include:
Drinking from a sippy cup
Bouncing, walking, or rocking
Someone lying down in bed with him
Watching an aquarium or other stimulating toys with sounds or lights
Drinking bottles or breast-feeding throughout the night (for a child who’s old enough not to feed at night)
Sleepeasy Solution: Put your child down awake
Gently moving her head from side to side
Rhythmic kicking or arm movements
Holding a lovey or stuffed animal
Finding a favorite comfy position
Singing or talking
Sliding his head to the top of the crib for comfort
Twirling her hair
Posted by Wenchie at 2:51 PM
Monday, June 18
Posted by Wenchie at 12:22 PM
Saturday, June 16
- who cannot be bought;
- whose word is their bond;
- who put character above wealth;
- who possess opinions and a will;
- who are larger than their vocations;
- who do not hesitate to take chances;
- who will be as honest in small things as in great things;
- who will make no compromise with wrong;
- who will not say they do it "because everybody else does it";
- who are true to their friends in adversity as well as in prosperity;
- who do not believe that shrewdness, cunning, and hardheadedness are the best qualities for winning success;
- who are not ashamed or afraid to stand for the truth when it is unpopular, who can say "no" with emphasis, although all the rest of the world says "yes"
WHOSE AMBITIONS ARE NOT CONFINED TO THEIR OWN SELFISH
Posted by Wenchie at 5:20 PM
I have so many lawyer-friends, especially the ones who asked me to pray for them to pass the bar exams when I was still doing my novena in Baclaran Church way back. Thank God, they all passed. They've been practicing for years already. Oh, how I envy them.
Guys, read this. No violent reaction, please...
An anonymous but acute and mischievous observer from the Bench compiled this telling commentary:
A male lawyer is aggressive; a female lawyer is pushy.
He is courteous to the judge; she is fawning.
He is careful about details; she's picky.
He loses his temper because he's so involved in his case; she's bitchy.
He's a stern taskmaster in preparation for trial; she's difficult to work for.
He follows through on his cross-examination; she doesn't know when to quit.
He's firm; she's stubborn.
He makes wise judgement; she reveals her prejudices.
He isn't afraid to say what he thinks; she's opinionated.
He exercises authority over a witness; she's tyrannical.
He's discreet; she's secretive.
He's depressed (or hung over); she's moody, so it must be her time of the month.
He is a man of the world; she's been around.
Posted by Wenchie at 5:14 PM
Friday, June 15
Thursday, June 14
Millions of women experience symptoms such as bloating, fatigue and breast tenderness during the days before their period. If these symptoms sound familiar, you could be suffering from premenstrual syndrome (PMS). The following overview should help you better understand PMS.
Premenstrual syndrome is a term used to describe a wide range of symptoms that might occur in the two weeks before a woman's menstrual period. These physical, emotional and behavioral symptoms usually stop when a woman's menstrual period begins, or shortly thereafter.
Most women experience some of the symptoms associated with PMS at some point in their lives, but not all women have the syndrome. While the exact number of women who have the condition is debatable, the National Institutes of Health estimates that 75 percent of menstruating women experience some form of PMS.
Some women have pre menstrual symptoms that are so severe that it disrupts their daily lives. This more severe condition is called premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD). Patients with PMDD are diagnosed under strict guidelines issued by the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG). While the symptoms are similar, PMDD is considered a separate disorder from PMS.
Causes of premenstrual syndrome
Although PMS was first identified more than 70 years ago, not much is known about the condition. While its exact cause isn't known, experts have identified several factors that may cause or contribute to PMS. They are:
Hormonal changes. During the second half of your menstrual cycle (the last 14 days of a 28-day cycle), levels of the hormones estrogen and progesterone increase until approximately day 21 and then begin to fall. Tissues throughout your body are sensitive to these changes.
Chemical changes. Fluctuations in the levels of serotonin, a brain chemical linked to mood states, may be a cause. Insufficient serotonin levels have been linked to depression, while excess levels have been linked to anxiety.
Diet. Some PMS symptoms have been linked to deficiencies in calcium and vitamins A, E and B (which helps to produce serotonin). Certain foods and drinks have also been identified as possible contributors to PMS, including:
Salt. Eating salty foods can cause you to retain fluid.
Although stress has been credited with aggravating some symptoms of PMS, it isn't considered a cause. Researchers have also been able to identify a number of factors that might put you at higher risk for PMS. They include:
Heredity. Women with a family history of PMS are more likely to have PMS.
Children. Women with more children are more likely to experience more severe symptoms than women with fewer children.
Physical activity. Inactive women are at a higher risk for PMS than those that exercise regularly.
Tuesday, June 12
After 2 weeks, I've read in the paper that this "salisi" gang were caught in the same resto, victimizing a returning ofw from Japan. She also lost her bag with all her "lapad". The policemen chased them and there's actually a shoot-out. But her bag was never recovered. They're all in jail at the Quirino police station. I asked my husband to go with me at the station. We went there, saw all the bags they have stolen. Looked among the bags, but mine wasn't there. Maybe they even sold it. My husband was trying to remember and ascertain that those guys were the ones who sat behind me at the resto. When we are about to file the formal complaint, there comes a group of big-bellied policemen from the WPD UN Avenue Station as I've heard them, introducing themselves. The robbers' (the gang, which actually includes a pregnant woman) faces all lit up. They were beaming with joy as if they saw their saviour. The policemen pretended to be taking their pictures but actually whispering something to them. They were glancing each other with their mischievous smile. When I told my hubby what I just saw, we went out of the station. He said there's no use filing a complaint then after all the complainants left, they will just release the gang. Because they're protected by the same people who are supposed to protect us...Tsk. tsk... I have posted my not so good experience in my college classmates' yahoo group but I still want other people to read this story.
Monday, June 11
My kids Nicole and Gabbie are so fond of watching The Suite Life of Zack and Cody. The twins who live in Tipton Hotel with their mom, who is also the resident singer at the lounge. I remembered my childhood days when for months, we would stay in a hotel to spend our school break/vacation. Since my mom and dad are both born and raised in Manila (grandparents don't have houses in the province either, only distant relatives have), we don't have any province to go to every summer. My ever-loving Dad would check in a hotel and there we would bum around, watch tv, swim, play our tea-set and shop with my Mom.
My favorite is the Westin Philippine Plaza, the lagoon-shaped pool and the breath-taking Manila Bay, the sumptuous meals and the very efficient staff. We were there during our elementary school breaks, high school vacations & college semestral breaks. In fact some of the staff have grown old and they still remember the apat na maria (have 3 sisters). Who would forget four girls who all wear the same style of clothes. And I would always wear the green one, my other siblings would wear red, yellow and pink respectively. We would run around the hotel and treat it as our park. My sisters and I would fight over the stationeries and pens available on every table. We took home all the shampoos, small towels, soaps, box of match, hotel slippers as our souvenirs.
We also stayed at the historic Manila Hotel, The Holiday Inn (the hotel stationeries are inside a thick-leather binder, this binder is actually chained to the night table), Silahis Hotel (remember the stargazer disco) now renamed The Grand Boulevard Hotel, the Century Park Sheraton Hotel (in front of Harrison Plaza, which meant more shopping for my mom), Copacabana Apartelle (we didn't like it there, furnitures are quite old)...
After my first communion, we celebrated it at the Bayview Park Hotel with my teachers. My eldest sister had her debut at the Westin while my other sis had hers at the Manila Hotel. I opted to have the money than celebrate it that way. My youngest sis had her wedding reception also at the Manila Hotel...I don't know why we really like to stay in these hotels during vacations and special occasions, maybe the ambience and the superb service it offers and doesn't require long travel. When my kids wanted to relax after school ends, I brought them back at the Westin. They should have given me a loyalty rebate after all these years we've been patronizing them.
We also tried the new Hyatt Regency Hotel (has a new casino), the Makati Shangri-la (which offer buffets in long tables same with the Westin's), Oakwood Premier Hotel (actually a condotel, has a gym facing the big pool, staff are so friendly), the Renaissance Hotel (formerly New World Hotel) and the Discovery Suites in Ortigas (which by the way, has a wonderful spa). I think these hotels have tie-ups with the RCI, Marriot or some time-share membership accounts abroad. So if foreigners or Pinoy balikbayans are looking for a good place to stay, they can use their timeshare exchange holiday system in these hotels here in Manila. I can assure them high standards of accommodation, facilities and services as I have actually experienced.
Tuesday, June 5
By Jaime Licauco Inquirer Last updated 05:22am (Mla time) 06/05/2007
The third question is the most difficult to answer: Could Bocalbo’s death have been prevented if his wife told him of his daughter’s dream?
During the time of President Ferdinand E. Marcos, a psychic reportedly warned him that the plane carrying his son Bongbong would crash. The plane had already taken off. The President asked the plane to return and his son got off.The plane resumed its journey. As we know, that plane did crash, killing almost everybody on board, including Bongbong’s best friend, the son of Judge Serafin Camilon (By the way, in a Playboy Magazine interview, Marcos said he had an intuitive insight the plane would crash and not because he was warned. I don’t know whom to believe, the psychic who told me about it or Marcos. Both are dead now).
Posted by Wenchie at 5:37 PM
Monday, June 4
10 Core Principles On How You CanTeach Your Children At Your Own Home With Great Success, While At The Same Time…Protect Your Kids From Harm, Save Your Money, Save Your Time, Reduce Stress, And Strengthen Your Family Life.
“But aren’t you depriving him of his socialization?”Believe me, I cannot count the number of times I’ve heard this line from well meaning friends when they learn that we don’t send our son to school, but instead teach him at home. (Now, with this article, I don’t have to answer. I can just give them this and say, “Read this please. Let’s talk again after you’ve read it.”)Here are other comments we’ve heard—some with sense, others just plain funny.“Won’t he become… uh, abnormal?”“You’re overprotecting him. Let go and let God!”“He needs to learn how to fight, become tough, and experience the world.”“Di ba yung homeschool pang artista lang yan?”I smile at everyone who gives me these comments and then explain these facts:Today, there are millions of kids being homeschooled in the world.And test after test (after test after test…) show that the average homeschooler academically beats the average of all students every time, at every year level, at every subject.Why? Here’s the truth that has been hidden from you and from the world at large: Homeschooling is the best educational system in this planet. It beats the most expensive, the most exclusive private schools money can afford. Unbelievable? Read on.
Friends, here are the ten core principles of homeschool:
Follow Your Child’s Learning Style
Posted by Wenchie at 5:18 PM
Sunday, June 3
On Monday, my kids will be back to "regular/traditional" school. My son Pio Miguel will be "home schooling" though. I've enrolled him to DECS accredited Catholic Filipino Academy, managed by Bo Sanchez. Will discuss about home schooling on my next post. Nicole will be in 5th grade. Her classes will start at 7:20 a.m. and ends at 3:30 p.m...Gabbie is now in 2nd grade (at age 6), she will be in the afternoon session (she doesn't like it). Her classes start at 12:40 noon til 6:20p.m.. That means she has to eat lunch at home while Nicole will just bring food for her lunch or she can just eat at the cafeteria. Whatever...My husband and I would just have to wake up early to prepare everything they need. Good thing, both of us are stay-at home parents (he's on call though). We would also be supervising Pio Miguel and Bea for their home schooling.
Posted by Wenchie at 5:21 PM